How to know if a guy is a player and he is putting an false act?

Seriously, what has the world gotten into? Boys now a days put a false act... you don't know who he was from the start or who he really is.... damn they are like the anti-christ, so deceptive. Especially when you just got to the dating world. Thank god , I didn't give my virginity to this guy but the fact that I allowed him to caress me makes me want to slap the hell out of him and get a lamp and slams it over his head. Sh*t, I'm acting like he take my virginity but hell nah he caressed me I feel like that's the same! I only want one guy to caress me and that's the person I want commitment with. I need to find em a Christian man, and I'm 18.