Do women know what men value in a sex partner more than her looks ?

Wow, there's a bit of arrogance in you claiming to speak for "men" in general. You do realize that's about 50% of the population, right? Oh, and some men actually prefer men as their sex partners. Oh, and I've been around a few years and a few men and not all like what you describe. Suffice it to say generalizations like the one you are trying to make will ALWAYS fall short. And, in the process, you look rather stupid.